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We Will Always Figure It Out

Finding a life partner literally means....Finding a partner in life. What that means is you enjoy the amazing times together and you will always have obstacles you have to overcome. For us, it was distance. We live 400 miles apart for the first 9 months only to give birth to a new relationship together. 9 months of living apart takes work. However, you can make the best of it. I lived in the Catskills and she lived in Pittsburgh. We had to do our best to make sure we made the best of our time together and apart.

Any long-distance relationship has its fair share of stress. We were not immune to restless nights or obstacles when figuring out how to bring our love to one location. Each person has to sacrifice for the greater good. We also have to support each other in times of doubt which causes stress. That's when two people have to be strong for each other. It requires at times one person to be the cheerleader when the other person is feeling defeated. 

This is how you bring two people together. Realizing you are stronger together than you are apart. I learned early on to listen to my Anna when I was going off the rail. She would also do the same for me. This provides our relationship strength and reassurance that true love can conquer any obstacle. 

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