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It's Okay To Be You

Personality matters. We all have one. For years, I always felt mine was a barrier to relationship success. I needed to find someone that allowed me to be me. I have a big personality and want to share it with the woman I love. 

One sure way to find out if someone truly loves you is when they tell you to tone it down a bit. That never worked for me in the past. I don't want to "tone" down my love for someone. In fact, I want to do the opposite. I want to fully embrace and be a little 'Cra Cra" with the woman I love. 

Anna is another version of me in some crazy way. Our personalities can be similar and different. We embrace both because the love shared never has to be the same. Let me provide an example of the same and different. 

The first thing that comes to my mind regarding the same is our values. We are very alike. We share the same values and a sense of what is needed in a relationship. I love that about us.  We know the non-negotiables that can tear us apart and lovingly work together to keep us strong. Anna and I love our strong sense of responsibility to each other.

People who first meet us might think, "Whoa" based on appearances. I have the "dad "vibe and the clothing line to go with the vibe. Anna on the other hand is the fashion model that walks into a room and looks absolutely radiant. When you love someone, typical things such as appearances are not the barometer for success. It is the heart and soul of the relationship that means the most. I love how we are the same and different. I love Anna for many reasons. Allowing me to be me is just one of the many I truly appreciate.

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