Skip to main content

It's Okay To Be You

Personality matters. We all have one. For years, I always felt mine was a barrier to relationship success. I needed to find someone that allowed me to be me. I have a big personality and want to share it with the woman I love. 

One sure way to find out if someone truly loves you is when they tell you to tone it down a bit. That never worked for me in the past. I don't want to "tone" down my love for someone. In fact, I want to do the opposite. I want to fully embrace and be a little 'Cra Cra" with the woman I love. 

Anna is another version of me in some crazy way. Our personalities can be similar and different. We embrace both because the love shared never has to be the same. Let me provide an example of the same and different. 

The first thing that comes to my mind regarding the same is our values. We are very alike. We share the same values and a sense of what is needed in a relationship. I love that about us.  We know the non-negotiables that can tear us apart and lovingly work together to keep us strong. Anna and I love our strong sense of responsibility to each other.

People who first meet us might think, "Whoa" based on appearances. I have the "dad "vibe and the clothing line to go with the vibe. Anna on the other hand is the fashion model that walks into a room and looks absolutely radiant. When you love someone, typical things such as appearances are not the barometer for success. It is the heart and soul of the relationship that means the most. I love how we are the same and different. I love Anna for many reasons. Allowing me to be me is just one of the many I truly appreciate.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Everyday Is Valentines Day

The aroma of freshly brewed coffee fills the air.  A comforting scent that always signaled the start of a new day. I am so blessed to be home and have that old Revere Pot remind me about the warmth of my wife's presence. My boo came out of the Christmas Holidays and quickly converted our home with themes of Valentines Day. This was new to me. Such excitement for celebrating our partnership was a reminder that our love is a gentle, steady burn, a comfortable warmth. We share everything – joys and sorrows, triumphs and failures. We are each other's confidantes, best friends, and lovers. And thanks to our love, Valentines Day this year is so different as it serves as a reminder of what we already know, and that is that we truly have a special love for each other.  Sometimes, there are misconceptions about marriage. Marriage, for us wasn't about escaping loneliness or filling a void. It was a natural progression, a formalization of a bond that always existed. We cherish our tim...
Post a Comment
Read more

Let it Be - Transition and Change

 Change brings about challenges. So does transition. The true testament to an amazing relationship is the willingness of both parties to recognize that change is never easy. Neither are transitions. The unsettling feeling we both get when a challenge arises is never easy. Do we get  mad,  frustrated, or angry? Of course we do. However, at the end of he day, it boils down to our relationship. A true loving relationship can learn to rely on the foundation we build together.  Our story is one of career changes, travel equal to a trip around the world, and unforeseen obstacles. Yet, we wake up everyday loving each other. This is how we know our love was meant to be.  Forever love is a force as powerful as nature. It often will = requires a delicate balance between the desire for stability and the inevitability of change. While the comfort of familiarity is alluring, it is the willingness to embrace transformation that can deepen the bond between two souls. It is in...
Post a Comment
Read more

How Lucky Can One Guy Be

I ask myself this every day. how in the world did this happen. I never expected to find love at such a late age. I gave up on the thought of having a partner. I was happy just being me. After all, my four kids are healthy, and I have a great job in the Catskills where I can hike and be outdoors. When you are in your fifties, you allow yourself to think this is all I want. What more did I need. Then, along comes Anna when I least expected it.  Music means a lot to me. One day, I heard a song that reminded me of the weekend we first met. This song is my anthem when I think of meeting Anna. It is "Aint that a kick in the head" by Dean Martin. This is how I feel when I think of or see Anna. The "pop" that starts the song reminds me of the first time I laid eyes on her.  The lyrics remind me of the first time we met in Erie Pennsylvania. Especially, "I hugged her and she hugged me back!" We had spent 6 weeks getting to know each other on the phone. When I set m...
Post a Comment
Read more