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The Bridge To Happiness Is Not Easy For Your Children

One of the things I most admire about my loving wife is we’ve spent years putting our children first. When it comes to our relationship, we met at a time our kids are young adults. We learned quickly,  it is okay to say, "We deserve this. We deserve to be happy." If they get upset, they’ll come around—or they won’t—but we can’t live our lives waiting for their permission to live ours.”

At points during this transition, we found a new resolve. We began to set boundaries with our children. When accused of abandoning the family, they have to realize this isn’t about choosing our own personal happiness over them; it’s about finding happiness that their parents truly deserve.

It is hard to predict. “We’ve spent decades as parents, and we’ll always be there for our children. However, you have to remind yourself everyone is allowed to love again and hope they’ll see that someday.

There were tears and awkward silences, and some relationships took time to mend. For one of us, healing might take much longer than expected. Slowly, we hope all of our children began to see the happiness that is radiated from us. You always hope that your children learned to respect their parents’ decisions, even if they didn’t fully understand them.

We found not just love in each other, but a renewed sense of purpose and the courage to embrace the lives we always deserved. Always together is our motto. This is our sense of purpose. We always prioritize our happiness, Hopefully our children learn a powerful lesson: that life doesn’t end after loss or change. Happiness is a choice, and every
one—at any age—is entitled to make it.

Hopefully our relationships with our children eventually heals, but even if a child never does, we knew they’d made the right choice. Our love story wasn’t just about finding each other—it about reclaiming our happiness that we deserve. 

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