No....I Am Not Going To Fade Out

The most common question Anna would ask me when we first met is, "Are you going to fade out?" Sometimes she would rephrase it such as, "Will you be like this forever..." Basically, as in any relationship, the inner voice in our brain asks, "Is this too good to be true?"

I thought the same thing at times looking back. True love is based on effortless love for one another. We both had "fadeouts" in our past. By that, I mean that feeling you get when you hope for the best, and unfortunately, the person is not who they say they are in the beginning. Good intentions are not the foundation for true love. The actions of an individual should be organic and without thoughts or planning. It is the foundation when you wake up in the morning, your first thought is about your true love. You also end your day thinking about your boo.... Sprinkled in between the start and end of your day are kind loving thoughts of the person you fell in love with.

Some tell-tale signs to look for are early gestures. I learned this from Anna. Do we try to impress the person in the beginning with thoughtfulness and then it slowly disappears? Not this guy. I am so excited about Anna that I always share my love for her daily. Usually, nothing is planned, just organic thoughts and actions. I put Anna first in my life. Not because I have to....it's because I want to.

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