No....I Am Not Going To Fade Out

The most common question Anna would ask me when we first met is, "Are you going to fade out?" Sometimes she would rephrase it such as, "Will you be like this forever..." Basically, as in any relationship, the inner voice in our brain asks, "Is this too good to be true?"

I thought the same thing at times looking back. True love is based on effortless love for one another. We both had "fadeouts" in our past. By that, I mean that feeling you get when you hope for the best, and unfortunately, the person is not who they say they are in the beginning. Good intentions are not the foundation for true love. The actions of an individual should be organic and without thoughts or planning. It is the foundation when you wake up in the morning, your first thought is about your true love. You also end your day thinking about your boo.... Sprinkled in between the start and end of your day are kind loving thoughts of the person you fell in love with.

Some tell-tale signs to look for are early gestures. I learned this from Anna. Do we try to impress the person in the beginning with thoughtfulness and then it slowly disappears? Not this guy. I am so excited about Anna that I always share my love for her daily. Usually, nothing is planned, just organic thoughts and actions. I put Anna first in my life. Not because I have to....it's because I want to.

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KISMET

Kismet is a fancy way of describing your fate. I realized right away that Anna was my destiny. How, you might ask did I know? Well, I realized that I am a lot for someone to handle long before I met Anna. And I am a bit picky and old-fashioned at times. I started to get comfortable with being single for the rest of my life. Fate and destiny had a different plan for me. When I met Anna, I realized that our love was unique. She loved and embraced who I am as a person. I was not used to that. In fact, I would fade out of past relationships because I felt like people did not understand me. Anna on the other hand did understand me and loved me for who I am. KISMET is something I thought I would never have in a relationship. Along comes the love of my life Anna Stagliano and fate and destiny had a different plan for me.

How Lucky Can One Guy Be

I ask myself this every day. how in the world did this happen. I never expected to find love at such a late age. I gave up on the thought of having a partner. I was happy just being me. After all, my four kids are healthy, and I have a great job in the Catskills where I can hike and be outdoors. When you are in your fifties, you allow yourself to think this is all I want. What more did I need. Then, along comes Anna when I least expected it. Music means a lot to me. One day, I heard a song that reminded me of the weekend we first met. This song is my anthem when I think of meeting Anna. It is "Aint that a kick in the head" by Dean Martin. This is how I feel when I think of or see Anna. The "pop" that starts the song reminds me of the first time I laid eyes on her. The lyrics remind me of the first time we met in Erie Pennsylvania. Especially, "I hugged her and she hugged me back!" We had spent 6 weeks getting to know each other on the phone. When I set m

YouTubing Our Love

Living apart for an extended period takes creative measures to show the other person that you love them. One of my earliest habits that has lasted over 6 months is as follows. When we are apart, I end every night with a song dedicated to Anna. It is a small gesture that has brought about many warm memories. Some nights, I have dedicated songs that Anna recently listened to or thought of at some point. This speaks to KISMET or Intuit someone can lead to amazing experiences even from a distance. Some of our song titles have ranged from many genres of music. I usually take the day to think of a song that fits my ever-growing love for Anna. The range can be from the 1950s to the present regarding the artists I have chosen for Anna. Lastly, my favorite artist is Phil Collins/Genesis. I occasionally choose a song from my favorite artist because it is special. It is my way of sharing something that brings me joy. Over the past 40 years, I have loved some of the songs for their deep meaning

Anna Stagliano - A Love Story

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